I wasn’t being defensive in a rude manner.
The problem with responsive websites is that they change on the user without proper reason (a different device is not a proper reason from a users point of view, and neither is rescaling the browser window) and more importantly: without warning.”
“and more importantly: without warning.”
This implies you’d like a warning before the responsive layout takes place.
Why can’t I tell you how a user reacts on responsive sites? I am a user that visits them after all. Do you have the numbers to back up your claim?
“I am getting feedback from users who simply do not understand why the same site they visit looks different on different devices. Some even think they have gone to a different site completely, and one even reported thinking the site was “broken”.”
Maybe the problem isn’t media queries, it’s the design techniques being applied.
Overall, I’d also like to see some stats on responsive layouts.