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I am sorry to say your relative is a fool. Unfortunately you were also fool to let him abuse the relationship as far as he did. Luckily you have some great people here to give you advice :)

Part of this gig is developing an air of professionalism, and a lot of that has to do with just getting the experience to combat someone else who clearly has no clue what they are talking about even if they they think they do.

The very first problem here is that he should have never discovered you can make him something for free because that shouldn’t happen. I know some people say you should give away your services for free to build your portfolio, but I highly recommend against that for a number of reasons (a couple include it makes it very difficult to establish boundaries and you end up with a grossly low level of perceived value for your work).

One thing you will probably want to start getting figured out is a process. It doesn’t have to be perfect, but there needs to be some kind of structure. For example, let’s say your uncle comes to you and says he has a client. You say, “Great, here is a basic outline of the information I’ll need, and once I have that back I’ll provide a proposal, or if you’d like you can schedule a meeting with all of us and we can talk it through and I can develop the proposal based on that meeting”.

If they get to the proposal and accept it, then you outline the next phase that includes client expectations as well as your own.

You don’t need to be experienced to develop good processes that make sense and frame a project properly. What you’ll do with that experience down the road is develop better processes that fit your work flow more closely.

Anyway, I kinda rambled there but hopefully it helps :P